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Wednesday, April 5, 2017

A to Z Challenge: D is for Drama (in the Adult Coloring World)

I help admin a coloring group on Facebook, hence this topic.

Dictionary.com defines drama as:

"a play for theater, radio, or television."

"an exciting, emotional, or unexpected series of events or set of circumstances."

But we all know what it really means nowadays. When did that shift even happen?  Thing is, most people don't even realize when they engage in it or get drawn into it. They claim that they don't do drama (often a prominent announcement on their profile page) but have mastered the art of creating it.

Strangely enough, those seem to be the people with the most "friends" and social interaction. Alas, I could go on forever about what's wrong with people, but then I would be creating my own drama.

How can there possibly be any drama when you're coloring? Adult coloring, well any coloring really, is supposed to be relaxing. Well, there are several things people say and do that create drama:

- People will often post in a Facebook group "I'm leaving this group because of ..." (the explanation part is optional and might or might not be true or relevant), but they don't really leave. They just want people to convince them to stay. Sadly, that works because tons of people who think they're being encouraging by saying "please don't, what's wrong" enable them and feed the insecurity.

- When someone has a concern, they will make a post about it, instead of addressing the issue privately with the person whose job it is to solve these things. This goes for other places, not just Facebook. It usually only takes a few seconds before someone responds, and it goes from there.

Common issues people use to create drama in the adult coloring world:

- copyright infringement
- group rules
- the quality of an artist's book
- how much money people spend on supplies
- arguing about the answer to a question
- "you didn't reply to the 300 messages I sent you 5 minutes ago" (usually aimed at owner/admins of group)
... and my personal favorite:
- "if you don't like something, just scroll by and don't say anything." (posted as a reply on a post that complains about complaining).

When did it become common practice or acceptable to address issues with a particular person in public? Plus, who wants to spend time doing this? (and it's usually people engaging in drama who say they're too busy for other things).  It's not confined to the common person either. It happens in politics, with celebrities (Twitter wars), and many reality shows have been built around "drama." Shakespeare is turning over in his grave.

How to deal with it? Like I do. Grab a coloring book and do your own thing.


Mail Adventures said...

I think you can do drama over absolutely anything. I'm not into colouring, but I read a lot about other hobbies (letterwriting, knitting...) in blogs and sites and networks... and my conclusion is that some people just love drama.

Unknown said...

If they want to leave the group and cause drama let them leave. Plus isn't it one of the rules that it shouldn't be happening? Maybe they shouldn't be in the group. Drama always causes problems.If they cause it they shouldn't be in the group.This sounds like they need to grow up.We are not in school.

Glorygarden@msn.com said...

I like that...complains about complaining. :D